ALECOMM

"Whoever was the primary carer before the divorce / separation should remain the primary carer thereafter."

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Created: Friday, 27 July 2012 19:49

Written by Alecomm2

As a female that has experienced the horror of the family courts first hand I believe that they are rife with corruption.  There is no best interest for the child, only who has the best lawyer, and best lies, and who can manipulate the court reporter the best.  Apart from that its not a matter of what you can or cannot prove about your situation, it is merely who has the heaviest hand - that being the balance of probabilities.  This means that, because there is nothing too ridiculous for the family court judge, that the party with the most amount of bullshit will win.  And, if you are the abused parent who ran away for the safety of your family and have only the truth, well to sum it up, you're screwed.

Unfortunatley for everybody concerned it is not going to get any better either.  Law reforms do not address the real issues because nobody has any interest in what the end users have to say.  Only those with a PHd of somekind have any input.  And generally, as we all know, the uni student has lots of book reading experience but no life experience.  And even when they occasional do bring in a few decent laws to protect victims, judges and magistrates like Judge Jarret in the Brisbane Federal Magistrates Court straight up refuses to apply these laws because they do not suit his agenda.  What i am referring to is the Form 4 - Notification of Domestic Violence Form.  Continually being denied to parents of domestic violence - no matter how much 'real' evidence they actually have.  Disgusting?  Yes.  But there's not a law in the land that is designed to kick the judge out of his seat because he is theonly person who is allowed to continually make wrong judgements and wreck lives and still keep his job.

I'd love to say it is going to get better, however it wont.  Well at least not until the battle of the sexes is dropped

- because for many years now both women AND men are being crucified in family courts.  Until everybody fully opens their eyes as we here at Alecomm have, and work together, amalgamated as a team we will never get anywhere or any justice, and the government and its leeches of lawyers and court reporters will just be sitting back and laughing and raking in our hard earned tax payer dollars.

As a mother, I have not seen my daughter in eight years.  My only crime was to prevent contact between my mother and my child because my mother was abusing my child.  Gone.  Custody to the grandmother.  And with thanks of our fantastic legal aid system I haven’t seen her since.  Nobody cared for the fact that raised my daughter alone from birth.  That she was five years old. That their had never been a single complaint to NSW Department of Community Services;  that neither preschools nor doctors had raised concerns or made complaints about my child. Nobody cared that my daughter was out of nappies and about to be at school five days per week and worth $500 a week tax free for my mother to raise my daughter, instead of $580 per fortnight she was currently getting.

So to all the sexist fools out there, stop shoving shit down my throat that only men get it bad.  We are aware that many good mothers that have gone through same tyranny in the same family courts too.  I too know fifty year old men whom absolutely HATE WOMEN.  They hate women because the mother took the child from the father for many years. It DOES damage the children and damages them permanently --- BUT IT IS NOT A FEMALE / MALE ISSUE you are dealing with, and you will not get anywhere until you realise this.

As for shared parenting. No I do not agree with it nor will I ever.

After all if this person done all the hard yards and changed the dirty nappies and missed out advancing their career to raise the child, why should they then be forced back to work, to pay child support to the other parent who is in a much better financial position because they NOW WANT CUSTODY to punish the other parent?

Screw shared care it doesn’t work and it never will.  Both parents should be in children's life, and children need both a mother and a father (obviously there are exceptions to this).  But the primary carer must remain the primary carer because they are the one who has the experience and the bond with the child, has obviously proven themselves the capable parent of raising the child.  It is wrong to cause a child instability, the government says it all the time and even takes children from good parents because they have moved homes, so why should a child be taken from the person they lived with and were RAISED by just because?  If you wanted shared parenting it should have started with changing the nappies and doing the laundry and the dishes.  Afterwards shouldn't count because you have not proven yourself capable prior.